When it comes to relationships, Janhvi Kapoor says, Kyun, vishwas nahi karte kya?

Janhvi Kapoor made a startling admission regarding her behavior in a relationship during the Mr. and Mrs. Mahi promotions: she acknowledged looking at her partner’s phone. “I know ki ye red flag hai, lekin main toh check karti hoon (I know this is a red flag, but I check),” the Param Sundari actress remarked candidly to the audience. She joked, “Nahi,” in response to the question of whether partners should have the same rights. Kyun? Vishwas nahi karte kya?” (No. Why, don’t they trust us?)

Since honesty and trust are the cornerstones of a successful relationship, Kapoor’s disclosure to Zee Switch does, in fact, raise some concerns about her behavior in a romantic setting. Although we look to celebrities for direction and counsel, Gurleen Baruah, an executive coach and occupational psychologist at That Culture Thing, advises people to exercise caution in this specific situation.

Even with consent, it is generally unacceptable for one partner in a relationship to check the other’s phone. This problem is complex and involves a number of crucial elements to take into account,” she told IndianExpress.com.

She asserts that the foundation of every successful relationship is trust, and that looking at a partner’s phone betrays both that trust and the innate leap of faith that couples take in one another. Respecting privacy is crucial, and crossing these lines can harm a relationship for a long time.

For what reason should you not pry into your partner’s phone?

“Checking a partner’s phone can create a cycle of doubt and suspicion rather than alleviating it. This behaviour often escalates, leading to increasingly invasive actions and higher levels of anxiety,” Baruah said, adding that the habit of checking a partner’s phone can become an obsession, particularly if driven by conditions such as Relationship OCD (ROCD). This leads to a cycle of obsession, distress, and compulsion, significantly affecting both Mental health and the relationship.

Clear boundaries and honest communication are essential, in her opinion. “Partners should talk about and resolve their emotions of insecurity jointly rather than spying on each other. A stronger and more trustworthy friendship is fostered by this method,” she continued.

How can couples deal with concerns about openness and privacy?

Keeping a healthy balance in a relationship requires navigating privacy and openness challenges. The psychologist gave several tips for couples to follow:

Clear Boundaries and Open Communication: Discuss expectations and boundaries pertaining to transparency and privacy in an open and sincere manner. To make sure both partners feel heard and understood, decide what information can be kept private and what should be revealed.

Establish and Preserve Trust: Strive to establish and preserve trust by acting in an honest and consistent manner. When partners feel safe and confidence in one another’s behavior and intentions, trust increases. Openly discuss any issues to avoid misconceptions.

Respect Individual Space: Don’t feel the need to continually check in on each other; instead, give each other space and quiet moments. Both the relationship’s health and the individual’s well-being depend on respecting their personal space.

Be Open About Your Feelings: Tell your partner how you’re feeling and what worries you. Instead of engaging in intrusive behaviors like checking their phone, talk about your feelings of insecurity or anxiety. Being open and honest about feelings aids in identifying and resolving the underlying causes of insecurity.

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